Facebook Has a Purpose
I know that sounds nutty, but it’s true. Remember my story last week about the high school boyfriend? Well, he’s on Facebook. I consternated about sending him a message, I went back and forth, and finally decided to do it. I kept it very short and simple, told him I’d been thinking about him and that I was sorry for the way I had treated him, and that I hoped he was doing well.
He responded. The first two words of his message? “It’s okay.” After 18 years of guilt and regret, those two simple words made a huge change. He said he’s doing well, and is happily married, and to tell my parents and brother hello. Mom’s going to shit when I tell her. 
I have no idea if we will actually keep in touch or if that will be the end of it, but I am so glad that I took the chance. And if it hadn’t been for Facebook, I probably wouldn’t have.
October 4th, 2008 at 12:30 pm
I was hoping you would. Even though it’s so long ago and probably forgotten by the wounded party, it muct be a balm to your own soul to have his forgiveness. Well done.
October 4th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
Well then I stand corrected! Good for you, and yay for closure!
October 4th, 2008 at 6:01 pm
Good for you! Forgiveness is always so nice. Even if he had long forgotten.
October 4th, 2008 at 7:17 pm
Congratulations! I’m glad you messaged him – it just seemed to be the right thing to do for peace of mind & to reconnect the karma. I’m very happy for you *hugs*
October 4th, 2008 at 10:28 pm
What a load off your mind! It’s great getting that kind of clean closure.
Facebook is in the air. I just joined in a fit of boredom the other day after reading Yorkie’s post, and now I seem to be running into references to it everywhere.
October 5th, 2008 at 1:09 am
I’m proud of you.
October 5th, 2008 at 11:33 am
Three cheers for closure!
October 5th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
Funny what facebook will do. I found the Ex on there too. He’s engaged. It makes me sad. =( I’m glad you got some closure.
October 6th, 2008 at 8:30 am
You’re a far braver soul than I. Glad you have closure though.
October 6th, 2008 at 10:51 am
I’m having the opposite experience. I’ve found I’m still very much in love with someone I haven’t seen in 10 years… only now he’s married. =/
October 10th, 2008 at 11:56 am
I just had a very similar thing happen but from yet another angle. I didn’t even realize I still had a hurt spot about the thing, but I did and that “I’m sorry” was overwhelmingly … uhm… good. Facebook does indeed have a purpose!